“Everything speaks everything always.” That is the moral I
try to convey while doing a breakout activity during District Kick-Offs. Over
the past two weeks, I have spoken to approximately 1,000 FFA members through
this activity. While I’m trying to send the members away with something to
think about, they’re impacting me just as much as I hope I’m impacting them.
Through the responses I receive in group discussion and the comments I get
afterwards, I have seen the pain and struggles that many of the students face
on a daily basis. But I also see the hope, joy, and determination they have
learned through these struggles.
The
activity I’ve been leading for District Kick-Off is called “Peasants and
Kings.” In this activity, each participant is given a playing card they cannot
see. These playing cards represent how the other participants are supposed to
treat them. Aces are peasants and kings are kings, while everything else gets
better in ascending order. I would instruct the students to completely ignore
the “peasants,” while the “kings” were supposed to be given lots of hugs and
compliments. After five minutes of
conversation, the students then have to line themselves up in numerical order
based on how others made them feel. Some groups did better than others, and
there were a couple of groups who admitted afterwards that they had cheated in
some way to get lined up. When there was no cheating involved, there were
always several students who were out of order. Most of the time, a student
would place themselves lower than what their card was. When that would happen,
I would remind them to never underestimate themselves. After everyone lined up,
I would tell them to look at their cards and then make a semi-circle around me.
This next part is what makes the biggest impact.
When
everyone is sitting, the discussion begins. The peasants and kings are given
the opportunity to share how they felt during the activity. Some of the
students don’t take this part too seriously, but the ones who do share things
that make my heart hurt. Many of them admitted that they feel like peasants on
a daily basis. One student shared a story about his experience moving schools
and how he feels much more welcome at his new school. On the reverse side, the
students who were given king cards explained that they felt weird being treated
like a king because they never get treated like one at their school. After our
group discussions, I give the members the opportunity to meet other members and
ask me any questions that they might have. This is when the truly heartbreaking
things happen. One night, I had a student who was in tears come up and thank
me. English is a second language to her, so she struggles on a daily basis
understanding and speaking to other people. She thanked me because I had given
her a king even though she feels like a peasant at her school. Out of all of
the students who shared their stories with me, hers hit me the hardest.
These
interactions opened my eyes to the reality of exactly what I’ve been
challenging the students to do. When I first started working on this activity,
I thought that it would be a great reminder to the members. I never realized
how much of an impact it would actually leave. “Everything speaks everything
always.” The students began to understand what I meant by this when they were
ignored. Not only do our words speak to those around us, but our actions do
too. When we ignore people, we show them that we think they aren’t worthy of
our attention. The more we show others we think that way, the more they believe
that they aren’t worthy of anyone’s attention. The opposite is true when we
show others that we care for them through our words and actions. If we treat
people like they can conquer the world, they begin to believe that they can.
And that’s all anyone ever wants: someone to believe that they can do great
things. Now that I’ve shared my stories, I leave you with a challenge: Never
ever treat anyone as a peasant and always, always treat everyone like king.
Love Always,
Courtney
2015-2016 Indiana FFA State Reporter